My focus remains shaping my behavior to be a better partner for LBI Try. I have been researching the topic, found about 40 ideas, suggestions etc from dvd/savvytimes/hot line etc. Then organized them into clusters hoping that would help me come up with a “program” for myself. Came up with about 5 clusters:

1. Ideas centered around my energy and her energy
2. Use of reward to motivate
3. Variety
4. Remaining neutral rather than nag/micromanage
5. All about me: my attitude, negative self-talk etc. (The new mastery manual is great for this.)

In doing this I realize that variety is something I can plan but the rest requires constant conscious awareness of what both Try and I are doing, thinking, feeling. This is not so easy to accomplish. I am remembering an acting class game used to heighten awareness of self and another that I want to try. This I think will require s l o w I n g down everything and waiting in between to allow the analysis to happen on a deeper level as there is so much to be aware of all at the same time.